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On Fear

Michelle — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 11:00:07 +0000

Remember in most cases fear is simply a sign that you’re moving into unknown territory not a signal to turn back. Unknown territory is the domain of discovery and the breeding ground for self trust.

Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life by Dr. Susan M. Campbell

“I’ll Try”

Michelle — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 15:00:12 +0000

When we say “I’ll try,” what we are really feeling is, “I don’t think I want to.”

To live an authentic life we must make commitments for ourselves and stick with them. Fear leads us down the “I’ll try” path. It’s our way out, our excuse before we fail. We set ourselves up to fail by using the word try.

My husband recently said to me, “I am going to try and get up early to get an extra early start to work Monday morning.” (He is NOT a morning person and getting up early is NOT his thing). I responded, “If you really want to get up early, then don’t try, just do it!” “Make that commitment to yourself.”

When we come home at the end of the day, we don’t walk in the house and try and sit on the couch. We just sit, we are clear, we are tired and need some relief on our legs, time to sit. When we are thirsty, we don’t try and drink a glass of water, we drink the water!

Think of all of the things in our lives we ‘try’ and do…

Lose weight, commit to an exercise plan, get a new hobby or job, meditate, make new friends, get involved with a charity, watch less television, read a new book a month etc.

Trying doesn’t work! We must clearly decide and commit to either doing something or not. When we do, a tidal wave of energy lines up with our intention and it’s difficult for our desire not to happen.

When we are faced with making a decision or commitment, pause, check in with the true heart feeling about it. If it feels right in the moment then commit 100%. If more time is needed then tell the person, “I’ll get back with you with a response.” Use that time to really get clear on what the heart is saying. What’s our truth, a clear yes or a clear no? Do not respond with “I’ll try” or “maybe.”

We must push ourselves to be our best by committing to things in life that make us all that we can be. Holding a clear intention of commitment to anything from attending a party to losing 30 pounds is powerful. Isn’t it time to push through fears of “being scared,” “not ready yet” or “it’s too hard”? No more excuses, don’t try, just do, your life is waiting.

Speak Up!

Michelle — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:06:44 +0000

When faced to speak up for ourselves and speak our truth, we avoid it at all cost. Confrontation feels scary to many of us. However, there are times when things should not be swept under the carpet, statements need to be made, boundaries need to be set.

Speaking up for ourselves is not about being mean, it’s taking care of ourselves and setting a boundary. A boundary simply teaches others how you want to be treated.

When we speak up, it gives the other person the opportunity to self reflect, look inside themselves and contemplate their words and actions. This ultimately is where authenticity is born, from going within and acting from our highest good. Therefore, it’s as much of a growing opportunity for you as the other person.

Speaking up is healing on may levels, don’t miss the opportunity to become more authentic.